Good morning, Guten Morgen and Sabah Al Khair ...
Its been a while since I took some time out to write but I finally am feeling a little settled and empowered to do so :)
A Shout out to all my readers who've been supportive throughout...Keep reading :) and I'm still waiting to hear your stories.
Today I'm going to express my thoughts on something that's still controversial in this day and age and it seeps into a man and woman's life from childhood through their transition to adulthood, her career, her relationships, marriage etc.
Now as I've stated my Blog is about a lot of things - Love,Life,Leisure & Labour and my last few article's have been about issues more so pertaining to woman and the stuff we go through and many would probably read and in turn label me just another FEMINIST, but no I am no feminist per say. I just wish to express and help others men and women understand they're not Alone in the battle of life and more so for women because as we all know we're considered to be "the weaker vessel".
I'm just 25 and am sure I still got a lot to see and learn but in these years I've been able to understand certain social dynamics or rather have been exposed to in regards to the equality between men and women.
I want to start of by stating that "Men and Women are NOT Equal" .
We differ in anatomy, brain function, emotionally, physical power, priorities, etc etc.
However , I feel this understanding needs to be fine tuned in many communities, social circles, country laws, and more than anything in people's minds. People like you and me.
So, as I just said, Men and Women are not equal, however it's a different ball game when you think of this at a social democratic level and this is where I feel a change could do us all good and is crucial.
I still see and read about a lot of norms that women are still considered to follow or not-to-follow just because we're women. This may differ depending on country, community and social strata but
lets look at it this way :
"EQUALITY -{dictionary definition} - SAMENESS. Outside of religious philosophy, two things are equal when they are the same ??
I choose to Disagree. Unless we're calculating numbers here, I truly feel that such thought and mindset is destructive.
Math formula's have equals but We're Human and we don't .
We are not equal to anyone. I am not equal to you and you are not equal to me and men are not equal to women. This does not mean your superior neither does it mean I'm inferior".
Example 1- In many countries and communities, a woman's priority should be good education, marriage, children, in-laws and that's it.
Example 2- From many a man's perspective, a woman should be submissive, accepting, supportive, adapting, loving, caring, respectful and basically just say Yes to it all (as much as it hardly happens), it's what is expected. If she is not, she can never know when she's at the least, in for a lecture or a good telling from her husband of boyfriend or father about how she has failed as a woman.
Example 3- In a certain country, Women aren't allowed to Drive cars and it is essential that each woman Must Have a Male Guardian, be it her father, brother, husband. The guardian holds certain duties and rights over the woman and if one of these guardians aren't able to be there for the woman, ownership is passed over to the next man eligible to be her guardian. "Damn..I'd feel like an old hand-me-down sweatshirt".
Example 4- It does not look good when a woman is seen smoking or drinking in a mini skirt and having a blast in public. It looks shameful and she is said to be inviting trouble when she participates in such an activity. That is why when she is Raped, the first question asked is - Why was she dressed this way? Why was she drinking and smoking and behaving with such shameful conduct? Her character made her prey to Rape.
Example 5- In today's corporate world, women are growing from strength to strength however not all of them or not any of them get it as easy or through the same process as the men do.
Women are expected to go through series of tests by their bosses and colleagues to get to where they want to be backed up by diligence, hard work and diplomacy.
So you see, the 5 examples listed above have nothing to do with "SAMENESS". It's about being NOT considered Equal as a human being.
Its been a while since I took some time out to write but I finally am feeling a little settled and empowered to do so :)
A Shout out to all my readers who've been supportive throughout...Keep reading :) and I'm still waiting to hear your stories.
Today I'm going to express my thoughts on something that's still controversial in this day and age and it seeps into a man and woman's life from childhood through their transition to adulthood, her career, her relationships, marriage etc.
Now as I've stated my Blog is about a lot of things - Love,Life,Leisure & Labour and my last few article's have been about issues more so pertaining to woman and the stuff we go through and many would probably read and in turn label me just another FEMINIST, but no I am no feminist per say. I just wish to express and help others men and women understand they're not Alone in the battle of life and more so for women because as we all know we're considered to be "the weaker vessel".
I'm just 25 and am sure I still got a lot to see and learn but in these years I've been able to understand certain social dynamics or rather have been exposed to in regards to the equality between men and women.
I want to start of by stating that "Men and Women are NOT Equal" .
We differ in anatomy, brain function, emotionally, physical power, priorities, etc etc.
However , I feel this understanding needs to be fine tuned in many communities, social circles, country laws, and more than anything in people's minds. People like you and me.
So, as I just said, Men and Women are not equal, however it's a different ball game when you think of this at a social democratic level and this is where I feel a change could do us all good and is crucial.
I still see and read about a lot of norms that women are still considered to follow or not-to-follow just because we're women. This may differ depending on country, community and social strata but
lets look at it this way :
"EQUALITY -{dictionary definition} - SAMENESS. Outside of religious philosophy, two things are equal when they are the same ??
I choose to Disagree. Unless we're calculating numbers here, I truly feel that such thought and mindset is destructive.
Math formula's have equals but We're Human and we don't .
We are not equal to anyone. I am not equal to you and you are not equal to me and men are not equal to women. This does not mean your superior neither does it mean I'm inferior".
Example 1- In many countries and communities, a woman's priority should be good education, marriage, children, in-laws and that's it.
Example 2- From many a man's perspective, a woman should be submissive, accepting, supportive, adapting, loving, caring, respectful and basically just say Yes to it all (as much as it hardly happens), it's what is expected. If she is not, she can never know when she's at the least, in for a lecture or a good telling from her husband of boyfriend or father about how she has failed as a woman.
Example 3- In a certain country, Women aren't allowed to Drive cars and it is essential that each woman Must Have a Male Guardian, be it her father, brother, husband. The guardian holds certain duties and rights over the woman and if one of these guardians aren't able to be there for the woman, ownership is passed over to the next man eligible to be her guardian. "Damn..I'd feel like an old hand-me-down sweatshirt".
Example 4- It does not look good when a woman is seen smoking or drinking in a mini skirt and having a blast in public. It looks shameful and she is said to be inviting trouble when she participates in such an activity. That is why when she is Raped, the first question asked is - Why was she dressed this way? Why was she drinking and smoking and behaving with such shameful conduct? Her character made her prey to Rape.
Example 5- In today's corporate world, women are growing from strength to strength however not all of them or not any of them get it as easy or through the same process as the men do.
Women are expected to go through series of tests by their bosses and colleagues to get to where they want to be backed up by diligence, hard work and diplomacy.
So you see, the 5 examples listed above have nothing to do with "SAMENESS". It's about being NOT considered Equal as a human being.
- If a man is required to be all that a woman is expected to be ...OMG..I can't find a way to even complete this sentence.
- If a man is seen smoking and drinking and just having fun with his dudes, does anyone raise an eyebrow?
- If a man is told he isn't allowed to DRIVE?
- If a man is raped (wow, how often do we hear of that) because of his sexy attire and his drunken state? Leave the rest to your imagination
- A man can take his boss out for drinks or to a game and get his next promotion, what if a woman tries to do the same??? (I'm bursting out in laughter right as i complete this sentence).
The 5 points listed above are too, not about SAMENESS. Its about being considered Equal.
Relationships come to an end, Marriages fall apart, Divorces, Children without parents, Women Activist Groups, Feminists etc, I feel are all a cause of this INEQUALITY.
It's time each one of us, Men and Women take stock of this brutal reality and change the way they think.
The minute YOU change, the World changes around YOU and the more positive change we see, The better the World gets around US.
Women are not Dolls or Merchandise to be passed around and tested and treated like robots. I get the fact that women are women and we have certain inevitable realities we're exposed to due to which we do have to be more careful in our dealings, our conduct etc just like a man does, it's just the degree that differs, especially in the degrading world we live in, however that doesn't we are going to sit back and let Life happen to US. The faster you accept that, the better.
Hear This Ladies !!
Good Day, Guten Tag and Maasalama
Frieda
